Growing up with Strict Parents!

Hello readers!

Did any of you grow up with strict parents? I'm sure many of you have. I definitely did! Now, I'm not saying its a bad thing or the worst thing in the world, but it can be a little annoying.

In this blog, I just wanted to talk about some struggles us children had to grow through for years! and maybe still going through now as a twenty year old...

If you don't have strict parents, then lucky you! I'm so not (am) jealous... let's just get started shall we?

Sleep Overs

When you are a kid, or even a teen, at school, you hear your friends and get invited to a sleep over! All the hype about this sleepover gets you excited and you can't wait till to tell your parents!

You talk with your friends about all the fun stuff you guys will do and how late you will stay up and all the junk food you can't wait to stuff your face in! You are extremely happy.

But then, all your dreams are crushed. You came home and asked your parents if you can go to the sleepover and the answer is no...

This happened to me so many times! I never slept over anyones house, unless it was my cousins. My parents reasoning was that they don't know who is coming in and out of their house. Or that they don't know their parents well enough.

I understand now that it was all to keep me safe and protected, but hey mom and dad, one sleepover wouldn't have killed me!! Just saying!

Going Out

I am turning 20 years old this year and I still have the same curfew as I did when I was 14. I swear It will be 7 O'clock and without a fail, I will have both my parents blowing up my phone asking me to get home since "it's becoming dark".

I kid you not, back In December, I was going to go to a party after work. My shift ended at around 5, so I would get to the party closer to 6pm. I told my dad I would make my way home around 9:30/ 10pm. He asked " Isn't that too late?" and I asked what time he wanted me to come home and he said 8PM! We compromised and set the time to 9pm. I went to the party, and left promptly at 9pm and most go the guest were not even there yet.

Have you guys ever heard of the game 20 questions? My parents have their own version, it's called 200 questions!! When I dare to ask to go out there are always a set of 200 questions before my parents decided if they want to allow me to go or not.

Where is it?

When is it?

Who will be there?

How long will you be there?

How late?

Are there any boys? Who's driving?

Can you send me the address so I can see how far it is in the GPS?

Is ____ going? Will their parents be there? Have you done a background check on their uncles dogs brother?

AND THE LIST CONTINUES!!!

My YOUNGER brother on the other hand, can go and do whatever he wants. no questions asked. He can leave at 3pm and not come back till 2am the next day and the only question he's asked is "Did you have fun, my son?" WHAT?!?! All because I'm a girl?!?

unbelievable.

Clothes

You know how in school there would be a dress code that all the students had to abide by? I never had to worry about breaking that code, because my parents had their own code for me. It didn't matter if i'm going to school, a party, the pool or church, it was always the same dress code.

Dresses/skirts should not be shorter than my knees, no open back, no cleavage at all, tank tops are acceptable as PJ's ONLY, no cropped shirts, and shorts should be approved by my dad.

If my parents didn't believe what we were wearing was appropriate, we had to go back inside and change.

School/ Grades

My parents have always been on me and my siblings about grades and school. I know many strict parents expect their kids to have straight A's. My parents just expected us to get good grades. They were understanding that sometimes we may work our hardest and still get a lower grade.

But if they saw that we were not working our hardest on a subject or a project, they would get mad then.

Also, college is non-negotiable. You must get a 4 year a degree, and then do what ever you want with your life after that. But before you get that bachelors degree, all of your focus must be on school.

Language

For some reason, when I think of strict parents, I think of parents that were not raised in America, or whatever country they are living in. I imagine strict parents as people who move and raise their family in a country that is foreign to them, and that is why they are strict.

With this idea I have that most strict parents are foreign, that also may mean they speak a different language other than English.

In my case, my parents are both Assyrian. They both speak Assyrian fluently, and both have the fear that the language will die if not taught to us (their children). I am not saying that they are wrong, I totally agree with them, but sometime the go a little overboard. For example, my parents taught us at home and took us to language classes since we were very young. My siblings and I all know how to speak, read, and write Assyrian fairly well. BUT if I make a mistake or stutter when I speak it, a lecture arises

Conclusion

I was hesitant to post this, because I was afraid people would take this the wrong way and think I am just bashing mine and other parents.

I just wanted to say that is not at all my intention! I wrote this blog for the sole purpose of entertainment and the belief that many of you readers will relate to some "struggles". That being said, parents just want the best for their kids and try to protect them at all cost.

If your a child of a strict parent/ parents, just know they care for you and are trying their best. Sometimes they may seem unreasonable, but they still love you.

If you are the strict parent, just know that your kid/kids are trying their hardest to make you proud and do well for themselves. They are kids though, so don't be so hard on them when they make a mistake!

Thanks for reading everyone! let me know in the comment section if you can relate to any of these struggles or if you have some of your own!

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~ Ash